Dorothy Tennov (August 29, – February 3, ) was an American psychologist who, in her book Love and Limerence – the Experience of Being in. Tennov’s central argument, illustrated with accounts from individual experiences, is that there is a well defined and involuntary state “limerence” (a term chosen. As relevant today as it was then, this book offers insight into love, infatuation, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love Dorothy Tennov.

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Good, Bad, or Both? I had done my “homework” years ago. My summers I spent alone since my parents were very rigid on kinship so it would be harder to make close companionships with other classmate. My ex and I are suffering. Oct 24, Bryan Mclellan rated it it was amazing.

In hindsight, it should not seem surprising to the human nature scientist that there should be built into us through evolution control over reproductive functioning that supercedes other motivations. Is limerence really cross-cultural? Last Child in the Woods Richard Louv. I’m sure I must look stupid to the people in the office. E-mail The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly. Anatomy of Love Doroyhy E.


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But I wander if it can also be a limerence for affectional bonding, in which care from my partner is expected, typically. To ask other readers questions about Love and Limerenceplease sign up.

It just hurts too much. My reaction to her was instant. Limerence and Biology — genetic fitness — imprinting — physical attractiveness 8.

Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love (Dorothy Tennov)

The Experience of Being in Love. We have ocd issues about our attachment. Jun 22, Wanjiru Thoithi rated it really liked it. But it just has to stop.

In this book, I learned that limmerence is involuntary and we’re wired for it when we are uncertain of our partner’s feelings toward us and we can’t control that. At first I felt a panic, but then admitted that it was for the best. Earlier that year I had presented the first formal paper on the subject at the meetings ajd the American Psychological Association.

Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love

I knew a married couple in mutual limerance their daughter so excluded she self harmed for the attention she needed; so sad. Which make her abusive and hostile. Almost all of the personal accounts offered are from the United States and all we are given no evidence for generalisation apart from a stray comment about love magic being universal.


He thought he had a girl but I caught him cheating on her 3 times in the first week and told her. Might get rest for a bit.

He said he is sorry that he messed it all up. Replies to my comment. This runs contrary to our culture’s “love-at-first-sight leading to happily-ever-after” mythos and leads too many people to think there’s something wrong with their relationships, that the “magic” is gone, when limerence fades in the face of familiarity.

It did not speak to me. Although self-report is traditionally regarded with suspicion by scientists, reports that are as consistent with one another as these descriptions of limerence are hard to doubt.

People who have not experienced limerence are baffled by descriptions of it and sometimes resistant to the evidence that it exists.

I had sought out information from other limerence subjects from: